3 Strategies to Managing Rude Co-Workers

By | November 10, 2014

Kool Derby

The pressures of work can take a toll. Some people are unable to handle the pressing deadlines or the increased workload, and soon they channel their frustration and anger to co-workers. Of course, there are some individuals who don’t require an excuse to be rude, but the pressures of day-to-day activities often trigger unprofessional and inconsiderate behavior.

No one has a right to insult you, and you should never put up with it. How you handle the situation is important. In some cases, you can ignore a rude comment, but most cases require that you confront the problem. You are more likely to respond inappropriately when caught off-guard, but there are strategies to handling an acute episode. Good advice is to avoid reacting too quickly to the event. Even taking 10 seconds to consider the intent of the comment will allow you to formulate an effective response.

Let’s discuss three strategies to managing rude co-workers:

#1: Consider the source.

You’re sitting in a product development meeting, and your boss says the following to you: “Christina, the reason you’re having difficulties managing the team is because you’re a poor planner. Didn’t we send you to leadership training? You should be prepared by now?” Obviously, this comment coming from your boss is hurtful, especially when said in front of colleagues.

Given that your boss is the source of this comment, you have to make sure that your response is professional. Try this one: “Jack, the team is having a few problems, and I take full responsibility for their performance. We are making good strides, and I expect all deliverables will be met. Regarding my performance … I will schedule time on your calendar to discuss.” Christina assumed responsibility for any shortcomings, but she also emphasized that the work will get done. She is right to suggest a private meeting to discuss performance issues. In addition, she will make it clear to Jack that she will not tolerate being embarrassed in front of the team.

#2: Be prepared for the unexpected.

There are some people in your organization who constantly make off-the-wall comments. In some cases, these comments are unprofessional and unrelated to your work. For example, “Larry, you’re erratic in your decision-making. I’m sure that’s why you’re having marital problems.” Personal matters are just that – personal.

Here’s a good response to this comment: “Felicia, I’m not sure why you made this comment, and I don’t appreciate it. Please note that all future discussions between us must be business-related.” If Felicia fails to honor your request, you have the option contact your line manager or go directly to HR.

#3: Avoid falling in the trap.

Regardless of the rude comment, make sure that you think it through before responding. Leave the great one-liners to Hollywood. When someone makes a comment that you consider unprofessional, consider the source and the intent. You must process the information before reacting.

It’s often more effective to show confusion and bewilderment regarding the rude comment than reacting with anger. You can ask the following questions: “Do you really mean what you said?” “Why do you think that of me?” “What specifically did I do or say to make you feel that way.” Of course, you should also make it clear that you will not tolerate rude comments, particularly those made in a public setting.

Rude people are here to stay, and you must be prepared to manage unprofessional situations. You can’t go wrong if you stick to the facts and avoidfalling into a trap in which you respond with a negative comment. This approach is counterproductive. A leader understands that it’s much better to identify the root cause of the problem, and do whatever possible to prevent it from occurring in the future.

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